Updated: Aug 10, 2020
Marriage is not I love you today and tomorrow I want out. In order for a marriage to withstand all that is thrown at it, we must get out of the "It's just a piece of paper" mentality and focus more on it being the foundation, the beginning of a beautiful partnership and having the mindset that two is better than one. For if one falls the other can help pick them back up. But if you're alone and you fall who's there to help? I used to get so very angry when I would hear people say, "Marriage is just a piece of paper." So one day I asked a bride," Why do you want the piece of paper so badly if that is all it is to you?" Her response, "I want a husband." I told her if that is how you view marriage, please do not get married!
Over the years my views about the statement has been, signing your name on a piece of paper is legally binding two together as they now belong to one another. I feel very strongly when a couple stand before me and their witnesses while repeating their vows (which are to be promises) that their marriage is going to last. A wedding is a piece of paper because you can have a wedding, reception and celebration of your life together and never ever be in a marriage. (If that makes sense) Marriage is what two people make of it. It's ups and downs, it's the highs as well as the lows, it's the good and the bad, the great and the ugly.
Two is better than one for so many reasons. No one truly likes to be alone. We want to have that one person that we can share everything with in life. To have that one special person we go to when we are happy or even in sadness. Someone that we can share the most intimate moments with and know that they will be supportive and also tell us the ultimate truth of our actions knowing they will still be there holding our hands through it all.
In certain circumstances one partner may be slightly stronger than the other but it's better than handling the heavy cooler alone.
Two is better than one because it is double the reward. You know the saying goes, "what is mines is yours and what is yours is mines." Our hopes, our dreams, our triumphs, our wins, our losses, and our disappointments, we should be open to share it all. When you have a supportive partner by your side, it makes it easier to bare the load. It could boost you and make you go harder in reaching goals and achieving so much more in life. Just knowing that in the end you have the support of the one that loves you the most, is the most beautiful thing ever to experience. When it comes to the most important things in life, it is better to be on the same page and headed in the same direction.
The two is better when they are working on one accord. The day the two say their vows they are saying they are in agreement, in unity and all together with each other, working as one well oiled machine. They are now joined as one and no longer working as two separate individuals. When the two share the rewards of accomplishments together, it makes it so much more satisfying.
Why not share life with your best friend, your love, your happily ever after because after all, two is better than one!
Minister Stephanie N. Trent Officiant & C.E.O of Cuffed4Life